Hi all, just venting a little bit and maybe looking for someone else having a similar experience. My husband was dx in late march of this year, and our experience with his onc has been absolutely awful. He never explains anything, the wait time for him is well over 2 hours and then he stands in the doorway for 30 seconds and leaves, and his answer to every question so far has been "google it." Both my husband and I are beyond frustrated at this point, but because of where we live (in fresno, ca) and his health insurance, this doctor is one of only 3 options. The other 2 doctors available are at the same cancer center and the center ittself is terrible also.
I have been trying to convince my husband that we need to just make the commitment to go down to LA for his care and get him into Cedars Sinai, but he says he doesnt want to deal with the travel and cost of having to go out of town for his appointments. I agree with the travela dn money aspect, but I dont know how else to get him the best care possible. His parents are also no help, because they see nothing wrong with Dr. Google It and undermine every treatment option I try to fight for.
I am just at a loss and feel so defeated at this point. I know it is not my disease and it is not my choice how to handle it, but I cant stop wanting him to be in the best place and get the best care possible. Has anyone else dealt with terrible doctors through their journey? Any advice for how I can best support him without being overbearing or making it worse for him?